Facing Your Fears

Everyone is afraid of something.  If you look closely, you’ll see that the root of your fears is a lack of trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way.  Fear can be overcome if you accept it and keep going rather than letting it be a barrier to your success:

Stop waiting for circumstances to be just right or until you’re sure you know what to do before you act.  Fear doesn’t go away unless you take risks to make your dreams come true.  With each accomplishment, comes new strength and improved self-esteem.

Keep a diary where you can write about the things that scare you.  Notice where they occur, how anxious you feel and what you do to deal with the situation.  Over time, you’ll be able to see what works best for you and also see how you’ve improved.

Avoid excessive use of alcohol or caffeine.  They will actually add to you anxiety rather than reducing it.

Acknowledge the positive things in you life.  Anxious people tend to overlook their own strengths.  When you’re scared, make a conscious effort to remember some past positive experiences instead of focusing on your failures.

Avoid catastrophic thinking.  Ask yourself what the worst possible outcome of the situation could be.  You’ll usually find that it’s something you could survive, even though you wouldn’t enjoy it.  Having faced the worst possibility makes it easier to deal with what does come.

Acknowledge your fears.  Many people try to mask their anxieties with activities such as exercising, reading, watching TV, or shopping.  These may distract you from your anxiety for a while, but when they become avoidance techniques, anxiety eventually increases.

Stay focused.  Much anxiety is the result of projecting yourself into future situations.  Stay in the present – here and now – since that’s all you can control anyway.

Take it one step at a time.  If you are overwhelmed at the thought of confronting an anxiety triggering situation, tackle one piece of it at a time.  Give yourself permission to repeat steps as many times as necessary for you to be completely comfortable.

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